Keep divorce civil, for child’s sake (Advice)

The Spokesman-Review

My husband and I are on the brink of divorcing. We have a 4-year-old, and I’m sick with the thought of messing up his life with something he didn’t ask for. Is there any hope for him to grow up into a well-adjusted adult with none of the “issues” from a divorce?

Not only is it possible, but there are also millions of children of divorce out there who won’t appreciate hearing that they’re hopelessly burdened with issues. That population, as it happens, has a message for you: Keep it civil, and keep it stable. No kid wants to be your referee, messenger or lead negotiator; no kid wants to be your pawn, bargaining chip or weapon of choice; no kid wants to meet a steady stream of Mommy’s or Daddy’s new squeezes – and, wow, no kid ever wants to watch from the sidelines as each new squeeze takes priority over them.

Source: http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2009/oct/25/keep-divorce-civil-for-childs-sake/