Even in the most amicable of divorces, reaching a divorce settlement is no easy task. Both the parties involved understandably want the best deal for themselves. While the estranged husband tries to getaway with paying as little as possible in the circumstances, the wife tries to get as much money as possible by way of settlement. Using certain negotiating tactics will help you get a better deal for yourself. Your aim should be to retain the quality of life you have been used to. This is all the more important if you have dependent children.
Discuss with an Accountant
Before you begin actual negotiations, sit with an accountant and discuss the ways in which the assets can be split equitably. Issues you need to consider are college tuition, retirement plans, and health insurance. Discuss which partner will pay for these expenses. The accountant will need information regarding the financial position of both you and your spouse. By obtaining all the relevant financial information you will be able to have a clear understanding of what you can expect out of the settlement discussions.
Keep Emotions Aside
When negotiating a settlement, keep your emotions away. This is not the time to rehash the marriage. Instead, be focused on your goals and aim to get as much financial support as possible from your spouse toward this.
Have the Law and Fairness on Your Side
As far as possible, stick to the letter and spirit of the law and aim for a fair settlement. If what you are asking for is what the judge is likely to award you, your spouse will be more likely to accept your claims. If you are very unreasonable in your demands, your spouse will be tempted to fight the case out in court. This can be a long drawn out process that is also expensive. Besides, you will be unable to move on with your life.
Know Your Spouse’s Weaknesses
By virtue of having spent time with your spouse over all these years, you will know their weaknesses. If you are aware that your spouse, for instance, wants the house, use this information as a bargaining counter to negotiate a better deal for yourself in another area.
Retain an Experienced Attorney
To get the best deal out of the divorce, retain the best attorney you can afford. An experienced attorney is one of your best negotiating guides.
Ultimately, if you want a quick settlement, be prepared to give in more and wrap up the proceedings. In the event that you are keen on a better settlement, be prepared for a longer wait.
