Disputes over child custody can be difficult enough, but they become especially wrenching whenever there are accusations of domestic violence or child abuse. Learn how any history of abuse in a family—or crimes against children—will affect awards of custody or visitation in Missouri.
If parents haven't been able to agree on a parenting plan as part of their divorce or other custody case, a judge will have to decide for them. Under Missouri's law on child custody, judges must start by assuming that it would be in the best interests of children for their parents to have equal (or about equal) parenting time—unless a parent has proved otherwise.
Judges must consider certain factors when they're deciding if a custody arrangement other than equal parenting time would actually be best for the kids. One of those factors is any history of abuse or domestic violence in the family. (Mo. Rev. Stat. § 452.375.2 (2023).)
A parent who doesn't get physical custody (meaning the child will live with the other parent) is usually entitled to reasonable visitation—but not if the judge finds that the visitation would endanger the child's physical health or emotional development. The judge must consider evidence that the parent has engaged in domestic violence. (Mo. Rev Stat. § 452.400.1 (2023).)
Domestic violence doesn't mean only physical violence. Under Missouri law, it includes a wide range of behaviors against a family or household member, including:
However, the law makes it clear that accidentally hurting a child during reasonable discipline (including spanking) isn't considered abuse. (Mo. Rev. Stat. § 455.010 (2023).)
Just because judges in Missouri must consider any history of domestic violence when making custody decisions, that doesn't mean they can never award custody or visitation to an abusive parent. But if they conclude that it would be in the child's best interests to spend time with the parent, the judges must make sure that their custody or visitation orders include provisions to protect the child from future harm—such as supervised visitation with a responsible adult who's appointed by the court. The orders must also protect any other children to whom the abusive parent has access and any other domestic violence victim in the family or household.
However, Missouri law absolutely forbids awarding custody or unsupervised visitation to any parent who has been found (or pled) guilty to certain serious crimes against children, including child molestation, sexual abuse, sexual misconduct, child abuse involving head trauma, incest, rape, female genital mutilation, and trafficking. The same prohibition applies if someone living with the parent is guilty of any of those crimes.
(Mo. Rev. Stat. §§ 452.375.2(6), 452.375.3, 452.400.1, 452.400.2 (2023).)
If someone has reported that a child is being abused or neglected, the Children's Division of the Missouri Department of Social Services will investigate and may remove the child from the home of the parent or parents. If the parents are divorced or separated, the agency may place the child with the non-abusive parent or another relative.
In all but the most serious cases—such as when a parent murdered another child—the agency will make every effort to help parents get back with their kids by addressing the problems that led to the removal. But if those reunification services aren't successful, the juvenile court might eventually terminate the parental rights of the abusive parent. Termination of parental rights is a drastic action that prevents a parent from ever regaining the right to see a child, much less regain custody. (Mo. Rev. Stat. § 411.477 (2023).)
If you're involved in a custody battle and believe that your co-parent has been abusive, a Missouri family law attorney who's experienced with cases involving domestic violence and abuse can help protect both you and your child. If you can't afford to hire a lawyer, you may be able to get legal help from one of the services in Missouri for domestic violence victims. For instance:
By the same token, if you're a parent who's been wrongly accused of abuse as part of a divorce or other custody proceeding, you should strongly consider speaking with an attorney who can help protect your custody or visitation rights. If you believe that your co-parent has brainwashed your child into making false abuse accusations (what some people call parental alienation), your lawyer may ask the judge to order you and the child to participate in reunification therapy.