Divorce Dictionary

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Abandonment. See Desertion

Abduction (of Child). See Parental Kidnapping

Abuse. See Cruel and Abusive Treatment

Abuse Prevention. See Restraining Order

Action; Actionable. See Cause of Action

Admissible; Admissibility. Any testimony, document, or demonstrative material that is officially considered by the court, i.e., allowed into evidence, generally in compliance with the rules of evidence.

Adultery. Sexual intercourse between a married person and a third party.

    Courts once used adultery, once the sole ground for divorce in some jurisdictions, to punish the guilty. Today courts are more interested in the economic impact of adultery, if any, on the marital estate. How much money was spent on the mistress' Think of judges as accountants who want full disclosure and financial accounting for improperly spent funds.

ADR. See Alternative Dispute Resolution.

Affidavit. A written statement, voluntarily signed under oath, usually in support of a motion.

Be careful that you have personal knowledge of all matters asserted, or else it 'can and will be used against you in a court of law.' If there is any doubt whatsoever, but you still believe something is true, say 'Based on information and belief....'

Agreement; Separation Agreement; Property Settlement Agreement; Marital Agreement. A legally enforceable, spousal contract settling all matters.

    • 1. Asset and liability division

      2. Alimony, health, and life insurance

      3. Legal and physical custody, child support, visitation, medical insurance and expenses, and college.

Generally not referred to as a 'divorce agreement' since only the court can grant a divorce. If the parties fail to reach an agreement, the case goes to trial, and the court's decision and judgment is substituted. Court's judgments are modifiable based on a 'material change in circumstances.' An agreement may be either modifiable or unmodifiable ('surviving'). Typically, these agreements settle issues relating to:

Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC). Government aid program to impoverished families. Commonly known as Welfare. Replaced in 1996 by Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) Program, created by the Welfare Reform Law of 1996. TANF became effective July 1, 1997. See Temporary Assistance for Needy Families.

Alienation of Affection. Any intentional, malicious interference with a marital relationship.

Historically, the aggrieved spouse could bring an action against the third party wrongdoer, without filing for divorce. These suits are now rare, however, and are prohibited in some states. Today courts will entertain fault divorces making the co-respondent a defendant in the action, but such defendants are generally not liable financially for their adultery.

Alimony. Court-ordered payments to provide an ex-spouse with financial support. Many states use other terms for alimony, including spousal support and maintenance. Spousal support is usually paid periodically, but sometimes judges order (or couples agree) that it should be paid in a lump sum.

For all divorces that were finalized after December 31, 2018, the federal Tax Cuts and Jobs Act eliminated the previous alimony deduction, meaning the spouses who receive the payments don't have to declare it as income, and spouses who pay alimony can't deduct the payments. But if the spouses were divorced before January 1, 2019, the payors may still deduct the full amount on their federal income tax returns, while recipients must report it as income. See also Rehabilitative Alimony and Temporary Support.

Alimony Pendente. See Temporary Support.

Alimony Trust. A trust fund established to pay alimony; rarely used; extremely expensive means of paying alimony involving complex gift and income tax analyses.

Alternative Dispute Resolution. an out-of-court settlement process; arbitration, mediation, negotiation or collaborative law. Not litigation. Some states mandate ADR for divorcing parties, although parties maintain the right to have a judge decide their case. If parties settle, they may present their written settlement agreement to a judge who rules on its fairness and grants a divorce. Only courts can divorce the parties. The parties may not agree to be divorced. Hence, settlement agreements may be called separation agreements or marital settlement agreements, never divorce agreements. See Agreement.

Alternate Payee. Party who will be paid pension benefits in the alternative, not the employee. See the U.S. Department of Labor's overview on Qualified Domestic Relations Orders.

American Law Institute (ALI). Established in 1923 to address the complexities and uncertainty of law around the United States; collaborates with the National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Law (NCCUSL); publishes Restatements of the Law and Model Codes, including Principles of the Law of Family Dissolution.

Analysis and Recommendations. See ali.org

Annulment. The court's judgment that a so-called 'marriage' was never legally valid or became invalid after the marriage.

Where a marriage was never legally consummated, for instance if one party was already married, the marriage is said to be 'void,' or a 'nullity,' i.e., it never existed. In contrast, a 'voidable' marriage is valid unless, or until, annulled. Grounds for annulling a 'voidable' marriage include serious fraud or a party's legal incompetence at the time of marriage. Most annulments are obtained for religious reasons through a religious tribunal.

Answer to Complaint (Petition) and Counterclaim. A responsive pleading that answers allegations made in the complaint. A counterclaim sets forth the defendant's allegations against the plaintiff, as if the defendant were asking for a divorce in the first instance. The defendant is sometimes called the 'plaintiff-in-counterclaim' since he makes his initial claim in this pleading.

Defendants must file an answer and counterclaim within a certain time of being served with process, usually 20 days. The plaintiff, in turn, must file an 'answer to counterclaim.'

Antenuptial Agreement. See Prenuptial Agreement

Appeal. Review of a trial court's decision and judgment by a higher court. See Decision and Judgment.

Appeals courts analyze the trial court's decision and judgment for substantive errors in its 'conclusions of the law.' In exceptional cases the trial court's 'finding of facts' are also reviewed. Most findings of facts are extremely difficult to challenge because appeals courts defer to the trial court's ability to weigh evidence. Unless the trial court's findings of fact cannot possibly be supported by the evidence, such appeals will fail. Judges have discretion to believe or disbelieve all evidence presented, and appeals courts will not second guess the trial court on its finding of facts.

While challenging a trial court's 'conclusions of law' is less difficult, states grant divorce judges substantial discretion in fashioning judgments. Therefore, appeals are often unsuccessful except for substantial errors of law that significantly and adversely impact a party; otherwise, the mistake is considered 'harmless error.'

Appear; Appearance; File an Appearance. A court filing registering the name of your lawyer, or, if you represent yourself, your name as 'pro se.'

Your lawyer must file an appearance with the court. All pleadings and notices are then sent to her address which constitutes proper service on you. If you appear without counsel, you are said to appear pro se.

Once counsel files her appearance, she cannot withdraw her appearance without your permission or leave of court, usually by motion. Sometimes courts will not allow counsel to withdraw unless a new lawyer ('successor counsel'), or the party herself, files an appearance. If no successor appearance is filed, courts frequently deny this request, even if the client fails to pay attorney's fees. Counsel then becomes your involuntary servant, but don't expect zealous advocacy from a slave. You may get what you pay for. Obviously, divorce lawyers view this problem as justification for large retainers.

Appraisal. The systematic and comprehensive analysis of the value, price or worth of an asset by examining the characteristics of the particular asset in comparison with similar or comparable assets that have been sold on dates as close as possible to the date of the analysis. See http://www.asc.gov/

Approximation Rule. Newer concept developed by the American Law Institute to help decide child custody cases by maintaining approximately the same parenting routines after divorce as the parties and child experienced before divorce. See American Law Institute.

Arbitration. A legally binding, non-judicial procedure held before a neutral third party, the 'arbitrator,' who acts as private judge.

Unlike mediation, neither party can unilaterally terminate the process, and both parties are bound by the arbitrator's decision, as if a judge acted in her official capacity. In some states, judges refer certain cases or aspects of cases for arbitration.

Arrearages. The deficiency between the amount, if any, paid and the amount required under court order. If payments are made voluntarily on a de facto basis, i.e., not under court order, any reduction in the amount of such payments is not considered an arrearage.

Assignment. The transfer or formal giving of right, title or interest in property to another person or entity, such as an assignment of a share of a pension to a spouse as an alternate payee. See Alternate Payee.

Assisted Negotiation. See Mediation.

Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART). Artificial means of removing eggs from a woman, fertilizing the egg in a laboratory and returning the fertilized egg to the woman's body or a carrier. See https://www.cdc.gov/art/index.html

Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). An organization founded in the 1960's for professionals concerned about the care and custody of children and the collaborative resolution of disputes. See https://www.afccnet.org.

Attachment. See Attachment Theory.

Attachment Disorder. Condition that results from preventing, impairing or disrupting an infant or young child's time with a primary caregiver on the theory that the child fails to form an attachment or bond with the caregiver, feels the world is unsafe, acts out, exhibits various symptoms, and later fails to develop any attachments or lasting relationships as an adolescent or adult. Also becomes more prone to serious psychological problems as an older child and adult. See Attachment Theory.

Attachment; Motion for Attachment. A lien on personal or real property created by court order (known as a writ of attachment) in response to a motion for attachment.

Attachments are issued by courts to preserve marital assets. An important adjunct to restraining orders, they are used if there is substantial risk that a restraining order would be violated. For instance, if the marital home is in the husband's name, and he decides to sell the house despite a restraining order, the attachment puts the world on notice that any purchaser would be subject to the wife's rights. Obviously, no buyer would buy nor lender lend under these circumstances. Most orders of attachment are issued ex parte (see below).

Attachment Theory. Concept developed in the late 1960's by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth that led to the conclusion that infants and young children should never spend more than a few hours away from their primary caregiver or they might not develop the ability to form an appropriate attachment and trust in another person. See Attachment Disorder. Often cited in child custody cases in the latter part of the twentieth century to prevent infants from leaving the care of their mothers for more than a few hours, never for an overnight visit with the noncustodial father. Later research points to children's ability to form attachments to more than one caregiver.

Attorney for the Child(ren). A court-appointed attorney who represents the stated wishes of the child(ren). Unlike a guardian ad litem who acts in the child's best interest by substituting her own judgment for the child's, the attorney for the child(ren) must promote those causes espoused by the child(ren) and generally not substitute her own judgment.

The lawyer's role is not clearly defined when representing very young children. In these cases, lawyers must substitute their own judgment on obvious matters such as protecting a child's bank account from an untrustworthy parent. Bankrupt; Bankruptcy. The inability of a person to pay his bills as they become due. Also, a person's legal status in federal bankruptcy court. Alimony and child support are generally not affected, but property divisions, including the marital home, are unprotected from third party creditors.

If concerned about your spouse filing for bankruptcy, consider an attachment on his portion of the marital assets, thus achieving 'secured creditor' preferred status in bankruptcy court.

Automatic Restraining Order. Refers to a court order freezing assets; goes into effect automatically upon certain events like the filing of a complaint for divorce. If a party violates an automatic restraining order by transferring assets without prior leave of court or permission of the other party, that party could be found in contempt of court, subject to incarceration and/or financial penalties, including payment of the winner's legal fees. Compare Trustee Process and Attachment.


BIP. See Batterer Intervention Program.

Battered Immigrant. Abused spouses and minor children living in the United States with abusive citizens or lawful permanent residents. US abusers may refuse to file relative petitions on behalf of victimized spouses or minor children because victims are less likely to report abuse or leave, fearing deportation.

Batterer. Person who uses violence and/or threats of physical, sexual or emotional violence against a member of the same household or romantic partner in a dating relationship. Blames the victim, accepts no responsibility for own behavior. See Batterer Profile and Cycle of Violence.

Batterer Intervention Program. Program designed for people who use violence against a member of the same household or romantic partner in a dating relationship; usually for people arrested for domestic violence, including classes or group therapy, and possibly psychological evaluation, individual counseling, or case management. Eighty percent of batterers are referred by the criminal justice system. See https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/195079.pdf

Batterer Profile. Controlling individual with poor impulse control who probably witnessed abuse or was abused as a child; suffers from low self-esteem, but can be extremely charming and seductive early in a relationship, and then for no apparent reason turns angrily and explosively on a member of the household or romantic partner in a dating relationship. Batterers are more likely than the general population to abuse drugs and alcohol; suffer from poor communication skills, frequently in denial, refuses to accept responsibility for own actions, and blames others. Emotionally dependent on partners and easily threatened by the possibility of their departure. Excessively jealous and possessive. Usually male, suffering from feelings of failure to live up to male paradigm.

Best interest of the child. The legal standard or doctrine for making child-related decisions.

Bifurcation; Bifurcated Trial. In some states, the grounds for divorce, and all property rights/support obligations, are tried separately.

Binomial or Lattice Model. Developed in 1979 by Cox, Ross and Rubinstein. Used to value or price options. Considered more flexible than Black-Scholes Method because more variables are considered, including vesting periods, changes in price, interest and dividends, forfeiture and early exercise. See Valuation. Compare Black-Scholes Model.

Biological Mother. Female who provides genetic material for a child, not necessarily the gestational carrier. See Gestational Carrier.

Black-Scholes Model. Developed in 1973 by mathematicians Fisher Black and Myron Scholes to determine the value or pricing of a stock option. It utilizes the stock price, strike (exercise) price, expiration date, risk-free return, and the standard deviation (volatility) of the stock's return. See Valuation. Compare Binomial or Lattice Model.

Bomber. A old term to describe an unethical divorce lawyer who sleeps with his clients.

If your lawyer tries this on you, politely tell him 'no,' then immediately report him to the state bar. Sleeping with a divorce client is a serious ethics violation -- besides, lovers make bad lawyers.

Bona Fides of Relationship. Intent of parties at time of marriage to enter into a relationship for good faith reasons, not simply to obtain benefits for a non-citizen spouse of an American citizen. See also INS.

Buccal Swab. Used to collect DNA samples from subject's inside cheek. Buccal, relating to the cheek. See www.paternitynet.com

Burden of Proof. The party asserting a claim must prove such claim is true.

In divorce, each party making a claim for a fault divorce must prove such fault.


Cannons of (Legal) Ethics. State rules, usually established by each state's supreme court, that regulate the behavior of lawyers. Violations can lead to warnings, fines, suspensions, and even license revocation.

Regulations are pro-consumer; they attempt to protect innocent parties from unscrupulous and improper behavior. If you think your lawyer is doing something wrong, i.e., it doesn't pass the 'smell' test, review the Cannons for possible violations. Also called 'Code of Professional Responsibility.'

Capias. A civil arrest warrant ordering the sheriff or other officer to take a person into custody and deliver him to court. This procedure is used when a party refuses to appear in court.

Cause of Action. A lawsuit. To bring an action (lawsuit). Certain wrongful acts are actionable offenses, meaning that such acts are the ground for a lawsuit, i.e. they create a cause of action.

Central Authority (CA). See Hague Convention (Convention). Under the Convention each participating country must designate a CA to handle Hague Convention child abduction cases. The U.S. Central Authority is the Department of State's Office of Children's Issues. The National Center on Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) is responsible for incoming cases. The CA helps parents seeking the return of a child to obtain legal services; provides the local court with information on the Convention; gets periodic updates from the court; processes requests for background checks on the child from the child's country of habitual residence (see Habitual Residence); obtains a written opinion on the wrongfulness of the alleged violation from the country of habitual residence; may ask a local social welfare agency to investigate child's welfare.

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA):. A trained professional who has passed certain tests to become a financial analyst specializing in divorce issues. May also be a Certified Financial Planner (CFP).

Certified Financial Planner (CFP). Credentials awarded by Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Inc. (CFP Board) to individuals who meet education, examination, experience and ethics requirements.

Change of Venue. See Venue; Change of Venue

Child Abduction. See Parental Kidnapping

Child Custody. See Custody--Legal and Custody--Physical

Child Support. Court-ordered payments from the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent that are not tax deductible by the non-custodial parent, nor includable in the custodial parent's taxable income.

Child Support Enforcement Unit. State agencies established under federal Social Security Act under Title IV-D entitled "Child Support and Paternity Establishment", known as IV-D agencies, to collect data, establish parentage, if necessary, and collect child support; initially for welfare recipients, later expanded to include non-welfare cases. IV-D agencies may collect alimony if child support is owed.

Child Support Guidelines. State guidelines requiring the non-custodial parent, under normal circumstances, to pay child support based on a percentage of income.

The federal government mandates that all states establish guidelines for child support. The battle ground in many cases is the definition of 'income,' especially 'in-kind' compensation such as a company car. Contact your state's child support enforcement office as set forth in the State-by-State Resource Center.

Clear and Convincing Evidence. See Burden of Proof. One standard of proof in a civil case, meaning the degree of difficulty facing a litigant in proving his or her case. A high standard, but not as high as the burden the prosecution must meet in a criminal case by proving guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. Compare Preponderance of the Evidence.

COBRA (Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act). Federal legislation that guarantees all persons covered by medical insurance, the right, for a monthly fee, to continue coverage even if employment or marital status changes.

COBRA covers ex-spouses even after one party remarries, for a fixed time period. For instance, if you become ineligible by virtue of your spouses' remarriage, you may continue on his policy for approximately 18 months. It can be expensive, sometimes up to $600 per month. Make sure all health insurance matters are covered in your separation agreement, including current and future medical insurance and uninsured medical expenses.

Code of Professional Responsibility. See Cannons of (Legal) Ethics

Cohabitation. Unmarried persons living together as if married.

Cohabitation becomes a problem when 1) in parties who have minor children the custodial parent takes in a lover during the divorce process and the non-custodial parent files a motion to prevent such behavior, and 2) an ex-spouse, usually ex-wife receiving alimony, cohabitates rather than remarries in order not to lose her alimony. Many judgments terminate alimony upon remarriage. Cohabitation during divorce can make a bad impression on the court and is usually unwise.

Collaborative Law. a litigation-free means of settling disputes. See Alternative Dispute Resolution. Both parties and their collaborative lawyers agree in writing that they will not use court proceedings. If the parties fail to reach an agreement, collaborative lawyers are dismissed. New counsel must be retained to litigate.

Collaborative Practice. See Collaborative Law. In addition to lawyers, mental health and financial professionals participate in the settlement process.

Commencement of Action. The official beginning of your case, defined as the time of filing your complaint for divorce with the court.

Complaints are not accepted for filing unless they comply with court rules regarding form and substance and are accompanied with the filing fee.

Common Law. A body of law, sometimes referred to as 'case law,' developed by judges over many years which establishes how courts interpret statutes and handle matters not specifically covered by statutes.

Common Law Marriage. A judicially-recognized marriage in some states, generally based on cohabitation. Courts in these jurisdictions may recognize marriages despite the parties' failure to comply with local marriage statutes.

Community Property. A system of property division which divides equally all property -- no matter in whose name it is held -- acquired during the term of the marriage, excluding inheritances and gifts in some jurisdictions.

There are nine community property states: Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin (quasi-community property). In these jurisdictions property acquired prior to the marriage stays with the party who acquired it. Certain jurisdictions exclude property that comes into the marriage by gift and inheritance. Some community property states allow equitable distribution where justice is served. These rules vary state to state and are fraught with exceptions. Consult local counsel.

Learn more about Divorce and Property.

Comparable Real Estate Sales. Recent real property sales used by real estate appraisers to establish the value of the real estate in question (subject property). Sales are usually in the same area and are similar in age, function, size, condition and location. Any differences must be quantified by a dollar amount that is added or subtracted from the appraised value of the subject property.

Complaint (Petition) for Divorce. A complaint for divorce initiates the divorce proceeding by identifying the parties; stating the grounds for divorce; stating all claims against the defendant; and requesting the court to grant a divorce, grant custody, divide property, and order support. All complaints must be filed with the court and served along with a summons.

Complaint for Modification. See Modification, Complaint for

Confidential Relationship. See Privilege

Conflict of Interest (Rules). Lawyers are prohibited from entering certain relationships in which the lawyer, by virtue of his profession, received or appeared to receive confidential information about the opposing party. No lawyer can ever represent both sides in a divorce, even if uncontested.

If you interview a divorce lawyer and decide not to retain him, that lawyer is barred from representing your spouse. If there is a certain lawyer that you don't want your spouse to use, consider paying for an appointment and sharing confidential information. Whether you use that lawyer or not, he is barred from representing your spouse.

Conjugal; Conjugal Rights. The right of married persons to enjoy each other's physical comfort.

Consolidation. The joining of two related cases.

Divorce and independent marriage-related torts such as assault and battery, malicious interference with one's business are often consolidated. Actions against third parties related to the marriage, such as a spouse's parents, can also be consolidated based on the legal standard, whether 'justice would be served.'

Contempt of Court. Behavior that violates a court order or otherwise shows disrepect for the court. In the context of family law, ex-spouses or parents may file motions to have their ex found in contempt for violating custody orders or failing to pay court-ordered child support or alimony. Proving contempt usually requires showing that there is a valid order in place and the person being accused of contempt (the defendant) knew about the order, had the ability to obey it, and yet willfully disobeyed.

If a judge finds the defendant guilty of contempt after a hearing, the judge may impose a fine or even jail time. But judges usually give defendants another opportunity to obey the order, or "purge the contempt."

Contested and Uncontested Divorce. In an uncontested divorce, the spouses have reached a settlement agreement that resolves all the issues in their divorce. They'll submit their signed agreement to the court for approval, which results in a faster (and less expensive) divorce process. In a contested divorce, spouses aren't able to agree on all of the issues, which means they'll have to go through Discovery and Trial.

Contingency Fee. In divorce cases, an unethical type of fee agreement that provides the lawyer with a percentage of your settlement or judgment.

No greedy, unethical lawyer has any business taking a percentage of your settlement or judgment. Why should a non-spouse share in the marital estate' Does your lawyer intend to pay you alimony' While appropriate in personal injury and certain other types of cases, contingency fees have no place in divorce proceedings.

If you interview a lawyer who wants a contingency fee, say 'have a nice day' and report him to the state bar. Such fees in divorce cases are prohibited by the Cannons of Ethics in most states. While the term 'legal ethics' appears to be an oxymoron, state regulators take these charges seriously.

Co-respondent. A third-party co-defendant in a divorce action accused of committing adultery with the defendant.

When adultery was the sole ground for divorce, this awkward procedure was commonplace. Today few divorces involve named third- party defendants. Question your lawyer whether the potential benefits are worth the time, expense, and hard feelings. Do not allow your emotions to control this decision.

Counsel Fees Pendente Lite, Motion for. "Pendente Lite" means during the a legal proceeding, before the final judgment. Typically, one spouse will file a motion to request enough money from the other spouse (or from the couple's marital estate) to pay for attorney's fees in the divorce case. Many judges routinely grant these requests in order to "level the playing field." If you don't have access to liquid assets, consider having your lawyer filing this motion.

Counterclaim. See Answer and Counterclaim

Court. The term 'court' has three meanings:

1) a physical place, e.g., courtroom, courthouse

2) a quasi-political entity, e.g., superior court, family court 3) the actual judge or justice acting in her official capacity

Court Arbitrator. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court Mediator; Court Arbitrator

Court Docket. The formal court record of proceedings before it. Notations of all pleadings, orders, and judgments are entered into a docket book.

In divorce court the first entry is the complaint or petition for divorce. The final entry is the judgment of divorce. If the case resurfaces because of a complaint for modification or a complaint for contempt, the docket is reopened and continued.

If you are concerned that your spouse is about to file for divorce, visit the court to examine the docket. Ask how long a new filing takes to show up on the docket.

Court Investigator. See Investigator; Court Investigator

Court Mediator. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court Mediator; Court Arbitrator

Court Order. See Order; Order of the Court

Court Services Officer. See Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court Mediator; Court Arbitrator

Courtroom Etiquette:

1) Treat the judge respectfully. Never interrupt or be argumentative, always ask permission to speak. In An Officer and a Gentleman, drill sergeant Lou Gossett reprimands recruit Richard Gere for referring to the sergeant as 'you.' Gossett points out that a 'ewe' is a female sheep. Always address the judge as 'your honor,' 'judge,' or 'the court' -- but never refer to the judge as 'you.' Finally, you may feel the judge is biased, disrespectful, insensitive, or just plain dumb. You have a right to these feelings, but never, ever, treat the court disrespectfully, especially if you want respect.

2) Treat opposing counsel respectfully. Wait your turn to speak and don't interrupt or make faces and gesticulate when opposing counsel is speaking. Great self-control is necessary, especially when opposing counsel intentionally lies or inadvertently makes misrepresentations to the court based on his client's misrepresentations to him. You'll get your turn.

3) Dress appropriately, be punctual, and be serious. Cry if you must, but avoid overly dramatic displays. Do not raise your voice or get into side conversations or fights with your spouse or his lawyer.

4) Tell the truth.

Court's of Equity. See Equity; Courts of Equity

Coverture. The period of time during which a women is married.

This term is used when establishing the value of property acquired during the term of the marriage, i.e., coverture. For instance, pensions are often appraised based on coverture; only those contributions during the term of the marriage are taken into account.

Cross-examination. Following the direct examination of a witness, cross examination is the follow-up questioning ('examination').

If your lawyer is conducting a cross-examination, that means the witness was first called by the opposing side. For instance, after your spouse testifies during direct examination, your lawyer has the opportunity to cross-examine. As you know, these can be messy since the rules of evidence allow almost anything that will impeach the witness.

Cruel and Abusive Treatment. Ground for divorce in a fault divorce, wherein the plaintiff must prove physical or emotional harm to her or himself.

Ask your lawyer for the legal definition in your state. If you forego this claim, you always retain the right at trial to enter into evidence 'the behavior of the parties during the marriage.' See Fault and no-fault Divorce. Failure to assert abuse in the complaint simply precludes the court from granting a divorce on this ground, but the court is free to consider evidence of spousal abuse in making its decision.

Curtesy. See Dower

Custodial Parent. Usually refers to the parent with whom the child(ren) reside(s), i.e., the parent with Physical Custody or Primary Physical Custody.

Custody Evaluation. See also Psychological Evaluation and Psychological Testing. Usually conducted by a mental health professional, sometimes called a Guardian ad Litem or court investigator. May include interviews, psychological testing, and home visits. Reports sometimes include nonbonding recommendations to the court, and are submitted to the court and attorneys for the parties.

Custody--Legal. A legal status or 'custodianship' vesting authority to approve all major decisions affecting a minor child. 'Joint,' 'split,' and 'shared' legal custody require both parents' approval of all major decisions.

In cases of child abuse, and in highly contested custody proceedings where the parties can't communicate, sole legal custody may be granted to one parent, usually subject to visitation or supervised visitation. If parents with joint legal custody cannot agree about a major decision, then the court makes the decision. Courts often defer to the custodial parent, i.e., the parent with primary physical custody.

Custody--Physical. Relates to the physical location of the child. The adult with whom the child resides is said to have physical custody. Such terms as 'sole,' 'primary,' 'shared,' and 'joint' are used to describe various parenting and visitation plans.

Most custody fights are fought over physical custody since there is usually a strong presumption of joint legal custody. Studies demonstrate that protracted custody fights have devastating effects on the mental health of children. Years later as adults, these victims still suffer.

Cycle of Violence. Phases of an abusive relationship where the batterer or violent party's behavior commences with a seemingly non-violent romantic nature that becomes irrationally jealous and possessive over time, causing victim to go to great lengths to placate the batterer who inevitably becomes physically, sexually and/or verbally violent and explosive, followed by abject and apologetic behavior, but without acknowledgment or acceptance of blame or responsibility for own conduct. Batterer blames others and the victim. The cycle continues throughout the relationship, usually with increasingly shorter periods between violent outbursts. See Stalking.


Dating Violence. Violence committed by a person who is or has been in a social relationship of a romantic or intimate nature with the victim. The existence of such a relationship is determined by the following factors: 1) length of the relationship; 2) type of relationship; and 3) frequency of interaction between the persons involved.

Daubert Test. Reference to William Daubert v. Dow Pharmaceuticals, Inc., decided by the U.S. Supreme Court in 1993. Relative to Rules of Evidence. Leading case describing judge's task in deciding whether to admit so-called expert opinion into evidence based on scientific validity and applicability to the case; whether the science has been tested and subject to peer review and publication; and what the rate of error is. Important standard when dealing with psychological testimony and evaluations in child custody or divorce cases. Later cases, Joiner (data must be reasonably relied upon by experts, 1997) and Kumho (expands Daubert Test beyond scientific expertise to all technical and specialized knowledge, 1999), also decided by the U.S. Supreme Court, refines the Daubert test. Compare Frye Test. See Rules of Evidence.

Death. Event causing the legal dissolution of the marriage when a spouse dies. Compare Divorce and Annulment.

Decision and Judgment. A decision is a judge's 'finding of facts' and 'conclusions of law.' The decision forms the factual and legal basis of the court's judgment.

Judges have great discretion to interpret the facts and draw inferences therefrom. See Appeal.

Decree Absolute. See Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment Nisi

Decree of Dissolution. See Divorce Decree.

Decree Nisi. See Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment Nisi

de facto. Latin meaning 'in fact.' Acting in a certain manner, usually as if complying with what a court might order, without such order being in place. For instance, if one parent is making voluntary child support payments pursuant to the guidelines, he is paying de facto guideline support, even though no court has so ordered.

In contrast, de jure means in compliance with an order or judgment.

De Facto Parent. A person who has been found by the court to fulfill the role of parent, providing the child's physical and psychological needs, for a substantial period of time.

Deposition. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Desertion. One of several grounds for a fault divorce. Most states require the plaintiff to prove several of the following factors: 1) the defendant left the marital home for over one year; 2) the parties failed to agree to such departure; 3) the party who left failed to pay support; and 4) the reason for the departure was not caused by the plaintiff.

Ask you lawyer which factors apply in your state. This claim is cumbersome and may not be worth the trouble.

DHS. Department of Homeland Security. See also INS. See www.dhs.gov

Disciplinary Rules. See Cannons of (Legal) Ethics

Discovery; Pretrial Discovery. Discovery is the formal procedure for gathering information pursuant to rules of court. The primary methods are:

1. Request for financial statement Immediately demand a financial statement and follow up with additional requests during the pendency of the case. Your objective is twofold: 1) fact-finding and 2) using any contradictory information among statements to impeach your spouse t trial

2. Request for production of documents and things If you followed our advice, most documents are already in your possession. Don't waste time making unnecessary requests for production, unless for strategic reasons your want to fool the enemy into believing that you don't possess certain documents.

3. Interrogatories propounded You are allowed to ask (propound) written questions (interrogatories) to your spouse. Skip the boiler plate, and keep questions focused. Your objective is information gathering and preparing evidence for trial, even if the evidence consists merely of perjury, or inconsistent statements used to impeach your spouse. Unlike 'admissions' (see below), the court may limit the admissibility of the answers to interrogatories propounded.

4. Depositions; Party Deposition A formal, out of court questioning under oath of a party (the 'deponent') by opposing counsel. A stenographer is usually present and produces a transcript. Used for information gathering, depositions also force a witness to commit to a certain story that cannot be changed easily at trial without facing impeachment. Depositions are expensive, provocative, and can offer your opponent a dress rehearsal for trial. Don't call them unnecessarily.

5. Deposition Subpoenas; Subpoena Duces Tecum A third-party subpoena to attend a deposition and bring requested documents. These subpoenas are typically issued to employers and business associates. We often use this procedure when opposing party is uncooperative, dishonest or doesn't keep good records. If you want documents but not testimony, arrange for them to be delivered without the expense of a deposition.

6. Keeper Deposition; Keeper of the Records Deposition Same as the Subpoena Duces Tecum, it forces the person responsible for records at a business to produce and authenticate documents. Such person's sole role is usually identification of documents. Keepers usually have no substantive testimony relating to the case.

7. Request for Admissions Similar to interrogatories but 1) the questions require a yes or no response, 'affirmed' or 'denied' and 2) the response is automatically admissible evidence at trial for any relevant purpose.

8. Motion for physical or mental examination. A spouse might request physical examination when the other spouse claims they can't pay child support or alimony because of a physical disability or medical condition. Mental examinations are more unusual, occurring mostly in contested custody cases or if one party is seriously impaired. Requesting a mental examination is highly provocative, so expect retaliation in the form of a request for you to be examined likewise.

9. Request to enter upon land A party can use the discovery to inspect real estate, often relating to valuation.

Discovery Problems. If you are being unreasonably oppressed by discovery, ask the court for a 'protective order' to quash, i.e., cancel, or limit the scope of a deposition. If the other side fails to cooperate with your requests, you can file a 'motion to compel' and request sanctions. Fee awards are unusual; judges often tolerate substantial misbehavior before punishing the guilty.

Disinherit; Disinheritance. To deprive a rightful heir from his or her inheritance.

State laws prohibit spouses from disinheriting each other. The surviving spouse is usually entitled to at least one third, no matter what is contained in the will. See Dower and Curtesy. Also see Inheritance; Inheritance Rights; Inheritance Expectancies.

Dissipation of Assets. Wasting of assets that might otherwise be available for distribution upon divorce. Gambling, extravagant spending, or excessive borrowing and use of credit cards are examples of dissipation.

Divorce Agreement. See Agreement; Separation Agreement; Property Settlement Agreement; Marital Agreement

Divorce Decree; Decree of Dissolution; Judgment of Divorce. The court's final judgment after expiration of the interlocutory or judgment nisi period. Upon this date you are legally divorced and can remarry. Generally, the final decree occurs automatically upon termination of the waiting period. Additional court filings and appearances are usually not required.

Divorcement; Bill of Divorcement. Same as divorce and divorce decree.

Docket. See Court Docket.

Domestic Relations Order. Compare Qualified Domestic Relations Order. A court order used to allocate interests between divorced spouses in nonqualified pensions, usually state and municipal pensions, as compared to private retirement accounts like 401(k)'s. The term "qualified" means the retirement account is covered by or qualified under ERISA – a federal law dealing with employee benefits. See ERISA. www.dol.gov/general/topic/health-plans/erisa.

Domestic Tort. See Tort; Marital Tort; Domestic Tort

Domestic Violence Hotline, National. created and funded under the Violence against Women Act of 1994 and reauthorized and funded under the Violence against Women Act of 2000. See https://www.thehotline.org/

Domicile. A person's 'legal' home, i.e., where the person spends most of his time, or intends to return if currently living elsewhere.

In divorce, domicile is important in establishing jurisdiction and selecting venue.

Domicile, Compare Residence. A party has one domicile, but may have several residences. Key term for deciding where divorce should be filed or which state's law applies to a case. See also UIFSA, UCCJEA and Hague Convention.

Dower. The wife's common law right to inherit from her husband.

In most states the surviving spouse cannot be disinherited and is entitled to one third of the husband's property. Conversely, the husband's right to inherit from the wife is called curtesy. Be advised that until your judgment of divorce is absolute, your spouse may have the right to inherit if you die during the nisi period. In some states, however, an executed separation agreement waiving the right to inherit may supersede inheritance rights prior to the judgment becoming absolute.


Emancipation. In divorce court, 'emancipation' does not necessarily mean 'legal majority,' i.e., 18 years old. Depending on the state and the educational status of the child, emancipation may occur between ages 18 and 23.

Make sure your separation agreement defines 'emancipation' as occurring after four years of college, so you continue receiving child support while your child(ren) attend(s) college. They need a place to come home for summers and vacations.

Equitable Distribution; Equitable Assignment; Equitable Division (of Property). In equitable distribution states, all property, whenever or however acquired, regardless of legal title, is subject to equal or unequal division.

1. Length of the marriage

2. Age, health, occupation of the parties

3. Station in life and life-style

4. Liabilities and needs

5. Contribution to the marital estate (economic, domestic, child-rearing, etc.) 6. Assets and liabilities, sources and amount of income

7. Behavior of the parties during the marriage

8. Vocational skills, employability

Most states divide property according to equitable distribution statutes. Parties often have misconceptions about what is subject to division. For instance, in some states, if your spouse inherits money before marriage, even if the funds were always kept in his name and he never used them for family purposes, the funds are still subject to division. Such funds are part of the marital estate subject to equitable division. In this situation the division could be unequal, especially if the marriage was of short duration.

Each state's divorce laws set forth mandatory 'factors' judges must consider before making an equitable property division or awarding alimony. Some states also have 'discretionary' factors courts may consider. Here are some mandatory 'factors' incorporated into most state laws. Ask you lawyer for a copy of your state's statute.

Equity; Courts of Equity. Equity is a body of law that concerns itself more with fairness than with the strict, and sometimes harsh, application of common law.

Historically, there were separate 'courts of equity,' but today, most courts have 'equity jurisdiction,' i.e., they can apply 'equitable principles' to cases, including divorce. One commentator called these courts 'anti-law' courts because they were able to circumvent unfair laws. But do not expect your judge to ignore statutes and established common law.

ERISA. Employment Retirement Income Security Act. A federal law governing employee benefits in private industry. https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/health-plans/erisa

Estate. Assets and property interests owned by a party, often referred to in divorce cases as "the marital estate", meaning assets subject to division between spouses. May exclude assets owned before marriage; assets covered by a prenuptial agreement; or assets acquired by gift or inheritance. Check state law.

Ethics; Legal Ethics. A code of conduct, also known as the Code of Professional Responsibility, imposed on attorneys. Violations may subject the attorney to disciplinary proceedings and malpractice claims. See Cannons of (Legal) Ethics.

Evidence. Any testimony, document, or demonstrative material.

Evidence cannot be considered, i.e., used as the basis of a court's decision, unless such evidence is admissible under the rules of evidence. Note that when courts consider making temporary orders at motion sessions, the rules of evidence generally do not apply since the court's orders are only temporary, generally without prejudice at trial. See Rules of Evidence.

Evidentiary Hearing. See Trial; Hearing on the Merits; Evidentiary Hearing

Exhibit(s). Any evidence attached to a pleading or introduced at trial.

Ex Parte: hearing, motion, order. Ex parte means without notice to, or attendance of, the opposing party.

In response to an ex parte motion, i.e., a motion without notice to the opposing spouse, the court conducts an ex parte hearing without the attendance of the spouse. Based on this hearing , an ex parte order is issued, and the opposing spouse receives notice of the fiat accompli.

Often attachments are issued ex parte to avoid giving notice to the defendant, since, a person who knows his property is about to be attached might quickly sell or mortgage it and secrete the money.

Expert Witness. In divorce cases, most experts are called to testify as to the value of the marital home, pensions, and privately-held businesses. In child related disputes, mental health professionals are often called to testify.

Extraordinary Expenses. Not the usual or ordinary costs or expenses, sometimes defined in marital settlement agreements as any expense in excess of a certain dollar amount, e.g. any single expense or series of expenses in excess of $500, usually requiring the prior permission of both parties before an extraordinary expense is incurred for which both parties are liable. Compare Ordinary Expenses.


Fair and Reasonable. The judicial standard for approving marital agreements.

Note that in non-divorce areas of the law, there are no standards of fairness; winner takes all, and the lawyers fight to the death. In divorce, lawyers' zealous advocacy must be tempered by justice, however, divorce lawyers often act as if they represent the plaintiff in a personal injury case, trying to win at all costs without consideration of the consequences. Avoid these zealots.

Fair Market Value. The price a willing buyer pays a willing seller; not a fire sale price or a sale between family members for less than full price. A price paid after an arm's length negotiation, not a transaction between parties paying more or less than what a reasonable buyer would pay. Compare Replacement Value.

Family Service Officer; Court Service Officer; Court Mediator; Court Arbitrator. Court employees to whom cases are referred for dispute resolution.

As disinterested third parties, these folks are useful in bringing parties closer together. If one side takes an unreasonable position, the court mediator can reel him in.

Fault and No-fault Divorces. In fault divorces, the complaint for divorce must state grounds for divorce. They include cruel and abusive treatment, adultery, abandonment, and other types of misconduct.

Don't be fooled by terminology. Each ground is a term of art, a specific legal definition, not a layman's definition. Ask your lawyer about grounds and their definitions. But remember, conducting a moral campaign to prove fault may backfire. It's a high price for self-exoneration, so question counsel whether it really makes sense.

No-fault complaints for divorce merely allege an 'irretrievable breakdown' of the marriage, or use similar language. The court must find that the marriage has 'irretrievably broken down,' leaving no chance of reconciliation.

Since the 1970s most states have allowed no-fault divorces. No-fault divorces are contested or uncontested. Where the parties present an agreement for the court's approval, their divorce is said to be uncontested. If the parties can't negotiate an agreement, their divorce is contested and goes to trial. Fault and Punishment. Divorce judges seek fair results, not retribution.

Many parties believe judges punish fault by penalizing the guilty. Judges are not grand inquisitors reigning terror on unfaithful spouses. Behavior must be outrageous, and we mean totally shocking, before most judges will punish the guilty.

Federal Court. Courts established by the Congress of United States. Federal courts do not usually deal with family law cases, but may decide where a custody case should be tried (see Hague Convention) and other ancillary issues such as discharging a debt owed to a former spouse in bankruptcy or deductibility of alimony. See State Court.

Fee Agreement; Retainer Agreement. The written contract between you and your lawyer.

The Fee Agreement should provide for monthly invoices; hourly billing (including the rates of the attorney, associates, and paralegals); the amount of retainer, if any; how the retainer is replenished if depleted; and the disposition of any funds not used. If the Fee Agreement allows the lawyer to keep any unused portion of the retainer, think of your local supermarket cashier saying, 'it is our policy not to give change.' Never say, 'keep the change,' when thousands of dollars are involved. Avoid these crooks.

See Contingency Fee Agreement and Success Fee Agreement for ethical problems with these types of Fee Agreements.

File; Filing. Any document submitted to and officially received, i.e., 'docketed' by, the court.

Final Judgment. After a court enters a final judgment, you may remarry. See also Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment Nisi.

Financial Statement. Each party must complete, file, and serve a court-furnished financial statement, often printed on colored paper so it can be easily identified 'sealed,' i.e., kept out of records available for public inspection.

Perhaps the most important divorce document, but often neglected by many lawyers, it is a major trap for the unwary. Honest mistakes 'can and will be used against you in a court of law.' For example, monthly finances can't be converted into weekly numbers by dividing by 4, as there are 4.33 weeks in a month. We see excellent lawyers on big-money cases blunder. Make sure your lawyer focuses on details. It is worth the additional expense in legal fees. If counsel wants to wing it, get a new lawyer, especially if the case is headed for trial. See Discovery.

Find; Findings. After considering the evidence presented, a court or jury interprets the evidence and sets forth what it believes, i.e., finds, are the actual facts. Courts have great latitude in weighing evidence and in believing or disbelieving witnesses. The court's findings, along with its 'conclusions of law,' form the basis for the court's decision. See Decision and Judgment.

Forensic. The application of scientific expertise to legal problems. In divorce, forensic accountants are used to locate and value marital assets, and forensic psychiatrists or psychologists are used to investigate and give opinions in custody and visitation cases. Although many experts are competent, few have courtroom experience. Make sure your lawyer prepares your forensic expert for a rigorous cross-examination.

Fraud. Making a material misrepresentation or failing to disclosure a material fact to induce another to give up something of value.

Most fraud claims in divorce relate to fraud in the inducement to marry (see Annulment), separation agreements, and the introduction of evidence at trial. In order to upset an earlier judgment, the fraud must be material, and the plaintiff (victim) must prove that 1) she suffered substantial harm as a result, and 2) she could not have detected the fraud at the time it occurred by using reasonable care.

Fraudulent Conveyance. A debtor's transfer of an asset out of the debtor's name in an attempt to keep it beyond the reach of a creditor. The conveyance is fraudulent if it occurs within a certain time frame before commencement of a lawsuit or bankruptcy and if the debtor did not receive a fair price for the asset in question. If a court deems the transfer fraudulent, the transfer can be undone.

Freeze Assets. See Automatic Restraining Order.

Frye Test. Frye v. United States, decided in 1923. Relative to the Rules of Evidence, a test applied by a judge to determine whether so-called scientific evidence should be admitted because the science is "generally accepted" in the scientific community. An earlier test. Compare Daubert Test.

Full Faith and Credit. A term found in the United States Constitution (Art IV, Sec. 1) requiring each state to honor the legal judgments of other states.

Such judgments must comply with the United States Constitution in all other respects. If a court did not have jurisdiction over a party (for instance, the person never set foot in the state), then a judgment affecting that person might violate the 'due process' clause of the Constitution.


Gamete Provider. Egg or sperm donor. Compare Gestational Carrier and Biological Mother.

Garnishment; Wage Assignment; Income Withholding. A court order to a third party, usually an employer, requiring the employee's wages to be automatically deducted from paychecks and paid to another party. Wage garnishment is commonly used for child support and alimony payments, either when the judge issues the initial support order or later, when the recipient requests it because payments have been late or stopped entirely. A judge may also order a "contingent" or "suspended" wage assignment, which won't become active until payments are missed.

Gestational Carrier. Woman who carries and delivers a child, but may have no biological connection to the child. Surrogate mother. Compare Gamete Provider.

Grandparent Visitation. See Visitation, Grandparent

Grave Risk of Harm. See Hague Convention. A legal defense in Hague Convention child abduction cases when defending against lawsuit for the return a minor child to the child's state of habitual residence because the child would be exposed to physical or psychological harm or placed in an intolerable situation. Must be established or proved by clear and convincing evidence. See Clear and Convincing Evidence. To be interpreted narrowly by a court. Not to be confused with a hearing on the child's best interests. See Best Interests.

Ground(s) for Divorce. Each state's divorce statutes set forth certain improper or troublesome behavior that constitutes a 'legal reason' for the court to grant a divorce.

1. Adultery

2. Cruel and abusive treatment

3. Utter desertion

4. Long-term incarceration

5. Gross and confirmed habits of intoxication

6. Non-support

7. Impotency

8. Irretrievable breakdown of the marriage (no-fault)

The following list, based on Massachusetts law, is for illustrative purposes only. Each term has a legal definition which may differ from commonly used English. Your state may 1) not recognize all the grounds set forth, and 2)may include other grounds. Consult local counsel. See Fault and No-Fault Divorce.

Guardian ad Litem ('G.A.L.'). A court-appointed individual who, for the purpose of pending litigation, puts himself in the shoes of a legally incompetent person such as a minor child. He also investigates the matter and files a report with the court.

G.A.L.s are usually lawyers or mental health professionals, depending on the court and circumstances. They investigate the matter, use their own judgment in determining the 'best interest of the child,' and report their findings and recommendations to the court. In contested custody and visitation matters, courts frequently appoint G.A.L.s for the children.

If a G.A.L. is appointed in your case, treat him respectfully -- return phone calls and be cooperative. Don't alienate the G.A.L. despite any resentment you may harbor. It will only hurt your children. Courts sometimes appoint an attorney for the child(ren). Unlike the G.A.L. who uses her independent judgment, the appointed attorney promotes the stated wishes of the child. In other words, she takes orders from legal incompetents. See Attorney for the Child(ren).


Habitual Residence. Term used in the Hague Convention. Refers to where the child last lived when a court deals with child abduction, but does not define how long or with whom. Compare with Home State as used by the UCCJEA and PKKPA.

Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. See Parental Kidnapping.

Head of Household. A filing status under federal tax rules. You may be able to file as head of household if you meet all the following requirements. You are unmarried or "considered unmarried" on the last day of the year. You paid more than half the cost of keeping up a home for the year. A "qualifying person" lived with you in the home for more than half the year (except for temporary absences, such as living at school). A dependent parent does not have to live with you.

Hearing on the Merits. See Trial; Hearing on the Merits; Evidentiary Hearing

HIPAA. Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996. Under HIPAA, the federal government established a federal minimum standard of privacy protections for patients. Regulations limit the ways that health plans, pharmacies, hospitals and other covered entities can use patients' personal medical information.

Most health care providers were required to comply by April 2003. All were required to comply by April 2004. Exceptions are made for records requested as part of a court proceeding. State law may provide even more stringent protection for patients, requiring a judge to decide whether certain records should be produced for an opponent's inspection and possible use at trial.

Hold Harmless; Hold Harmless Agreement. The contractual assumption of certain liabilities by a party who agrees: 1) not to look to the other party for assistance in satisfying such liabilities, and 2) to defend ('indemnify') the other party against third party claims, if a third party, say a creditor, sues you.

    If your spouse agrees to indemnify you, he will defend any actions against you including paying your attorney fees, court costs, and damages against you, if any are awarded.

Home State. See UCCJEA and PKPA. The State where a child lived with a parent or a person acting as parent for at lest six consecutive months immediately before the commencement of child custody proceedings. If a child is less than six months old, then the State where the child lived from birth. A period of temporary absence is included.


Impeach; Impeachment of Testimony. Discrediting a witness by proving lies, inconsistencies in stories told, and untrustworthiness. The witness may be impeached during cross-examination or by the direct testimony or evidence of another witness. See Direct and Cross Examination.

Prior inconsistent statements made at a deposition or in written interrogatories are classic examples of impeachment during cross-examination. In Camera Hearing. A closed-door hearing in judge's chambers, usually concerning sensitive child-related issues.

Imputed Income. A practice judges may use to attribute income to a spouse who's not actually earning that much money but is capable of doing so. Judges may impute income to a parent who's voluntarily unemployed or underemployed when calculating child support, but they also may do so in alimony decisions.

Infant. A person who has not reached legal majority, usually 18 years of age. Also, referred to as a 'minor,' or unemancipated child.

Inheritance; Inheritance Rights; Inheritance Expectancies. In equitable distribution states, inheritance rights, say from your parents, can be considered by the court.

Note that most inheritance 'rights' are mere expectancies, i.e., they are not vested since you may be disinherited. As a practical matter, even if the court takes into account expectancies, they are generally not given much weight, especially if one's parents are healthy. Courts avoid placing an economic value on assets of uncertain worth that may or may not be received upon some uncertain future date.

Injunction; Injunctive Relief. A court order prohibiting certain activity. See Temporary Order; Temporary Restraining Order

Injunctions are generally 'negative,' i.e., they prohibit certain activities. Injunctions which require certain activity are called 'affirmative' injunctions. Outside divorce, most injunctions are 'negative.' It would be impossible to enforce certain affirmative orders, such as requiring an opera singer to sing. Affirmative injunctions are more common in divorce cases especially since they relate to minor children, often covering to visitation. Property-related injunctions are also common, usually restricting the sale or transfer of property, borrowing, and spending on non-necessities. See Restraining Order.

Innocent Spouse; Innocent Spouse Rule. Section 434(c)(1) of the Internal Revenue Code protects an 'innocent spouse' from tax liability if certain conditions are met:

1. A joint return was filed

2. The return contained a 'grossly erroneous' error

3. The innocent spouse establishes 'lack of knowledge 4. In light of all the 'facts and circumstances' it would be 'inequitable' to impose the tax on the innocent spouse

Tax counsel should be consulted.

INS. Immigration and Naturalization Service, former agency under the U.S. Department of Justice (DOJ). Handled immigration. Tasks now handled by other agencies established under the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) with the exception of immigration court system, still under DOJ. DHS overseas USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services); USICE (United States Immigraiton and Customs Enforcement; and USCBP (United States Customs and Border Patrol). Immigration laws may impact adoption, marriage and divorce. See http://uscis.gov/graphics/index.htm

Intact Family. A family that has not experienced a separation and/or divorce, hence, is not broken, but intact.

Interlocutory Hearing. Any court hearing at which a pretrial order or ruling is requested.

Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment Nisi. The initial judgment of divorce. When courts grant divorces, their judgments are not final until the expiration of a statutory 'waiting period' known as the interlocutory or nisi period. It begins when the interlocutory judgment enters and ends upon the 'final judgment,' 'judgment absolute,' or 'final decree.' State law varies greatly in this regard, so check with counsel.

Despite your judgment of divorce nisi or interlocutory decree, you are still legally married and cannot remarry until the judgment becomes 'final' or 'absolute.' Also, during the interlocutory or nisi period, your spouse has the right to inherit from you unless a separation agreement waiving such rights was executed. Check with counsel if you are feeling mortal.

Our misguided legislatures, in an effort to save obviously failed marriages, require this waiting or 'warming-up' period in the highly unlikely event the parties reconcile. We have heard of 'cooling off' periods before gun purchases, but our lawmakers are unrealistic if they think a warming-up period can save marriages after an interlocutory judgment. Besides, it would be easier for parties to remarry than stop the clock on an interlocutory judgment.

Interlocutory Order. See Temporary Order; Temporary Restraining Order

Interrogatories. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Intestate; Laws of Intestacy. A person who dies without a will is said to die intestate.

State laws of intestacy establish who inherits, and in what percentage. Surviving spouses usually inherit the entire estate except in the case of surviving children who are entitled to usually two thirds, while the surviving spouse inherits the remaining one third. Rules vary from state to state.

Investigator; Court Investigator. A person appointed by the court, usually to investigate child-related matters, and file a report with the court.

Unlike the Guardian ad Litem, the investigator does not 'stand in the shoes' of the minor child(ren).

IOLTA. Interest on Lawyers Trust Account, a mandatory bank account for lawyers holding clients' funds, including retainers. Interest is accrued on balances, but not for the benefit of the lawyer or client. State bar organizations usually designate a legal charity as the recipient.

Irretrievable Breakdown. The legal grounds for no fault divorce in most states.

The court must be convinced, i.e., find, that the marriage has 'irretrievably broken down' and that there is no chance of reconciliation. If your case is uncontested you may have to sign an affidavit stating that the marriage is 'irretrievably broken down.' It is filed along with your joint petition and separation agreement before an uncontested, no-fault divorce is granted..


Joint Custody. See Custody, Legal and Custody, Physical

Joint Petition. When both parties want the court to do the same thing, such as 'dissolve a marriage' due to an irretrievable breakdown (no-fault) and approve a separation agreement (uncontested), the parties jointly request (by joint petition) the court to grant the divorce.

Joint Property. Property held in the name of both spouses. Except in Mississippi, legal title is usually not relevant in dividing property. Basically, one spouse can't say, 'honey, the property is in my name, so you don't get any.'

Judgment. See Decision and Judgment

Judgment Absolute; Final Judgment. See Interlocutory Judgment; Judgment Nisi

Judgment of Divorce; Judgment of Divorce Absolute. See Divorce Decree

Judgment Nisi. See Interlocutory Judgment; Interlocutory Decree; Judgment of Divorce Nisi

Judicial Separation. See Legal Separation

Jurisdiction. The court's legal authority to hear your case and issue legally enforceable orders and judgments. Usually, the court in the county where you last lived together has jurisdiction over the divorce. If one party permanently leaves the state, both states may have jurisdiction. Ask you lawyer about this tricky area of jurisprudence.


Legal Assistant. A staff member of a law office or firm, usually performing certain clerical tasks without any training as a paralegal, but over time probably capable of performing paralegal activities. Assistant's time may not be billed to the client. Compare Paralegal.

Legal Custody. See Custody--Legal

Legal Ethics. See Ethics; Legal Ethics

Legal Separation; Separate Support; Separate Maintenance. Available in some states, a legal separation is similar to a divorce, except no divorce judgment is granted that ends the marriage.

In response to a complaint for legal separation or separate support, the court may provide remedies relating to property (in some states) and support. Generally, a complaint for divorce or annulment is necessary before a court orders a final property division. Also called judicial separation.

Lien; Spousal Lien on Marital Property. See Attachment

Lord Mansfield's Rule. The legal presumption that any child born to a woman during her marriage is the child of her husband; possible exception. if the husband did not have access to the wife during the probable time of conception. A rule enunciated by Lord Mansfield in 18th century England. The same rule followed to some degree in American courts. In the latter part of the 20th century, the rule lost favor in the U.S. and will continue fading because of genetic testing.

Lump Sum, Lump Sum Settlement. One time payment as opposed to a series of payments over time or an installment or structured settlement. The lump sum may be less than all of the payments made over time because the so-called time value of money is taken into account, thus creating a discount. In divorce cases a lump sum payment may be used to pay off all of the alimony obligations or may be used to secure a discount for a spouse's share of future income such as rents or proceeds from an installment sale to a third party. See Structured Settlement.


Maintenance. See Alimony

Malpractice (Legal). The improper or incompetent behavior of your attorney. Violations of the Cannons of (Legal) Ethics often constitute legal malpractice.

Mandatory Factors (to be Considered by the Court). The factors a court must consider before making a final decision relating to property division and alimony. Some states also have 'discretionary factors' a court may consider. See Equitable Distribution.

Mandatory Self-Disclosure. Court rule requiring parties to a lawsuit to provide financial disclosure to one another within a certain period of time after suit is commenced. No formal requests as in traditional discovery (see Discovery) where the party seeking information must draft and serve specific requests for information and documents using particular forms following court rules.

Marital Assets; Marital Property; Marital Estate. See Equitable Distribution and Community Property

Marital Agreement; Marital Settlement Agreement. See Agreement

Marital Portion. A share of a pension accrued during marriage, including inflation protection. Usually determined by multiplying the accrued benefit of the employee's pension by a fraction, the numerator of which is the total number of months of the marriage, and the denominator of which is the total number of months of the employee's participation in the pension plan. Also refers to stock options that vest before, during or after marriage.

Marital Tort. See Tort; Marital Tort; Domestic Tort

Marriage Certificate. The official certification (with raised seal) of your marriage issued by a public entity.

Make sure you have an official copy with a raised seal; religious certificates are generally unacceptable. Contact the city or town where you were married or your state.

Market Analysis. With respect to real property, the study conducted by a real estate broker, not an appraiser, showing value or price of a particular piece of real estate with an analysis of similar or comparable real estate recently sold. A broker who hopes to be engaged by the owner to list the property for sale may do the analysis at no charge. Compare Valuation and Appraisal.

Master. See Special Master

Maternal Preference. Concept used by 20th century courts when deciding child custody cases in favor of mothers. See Tender Years Presumption.

Maternity. A female adult's relationship to a child; could mean gestational carrier (surrogate mother) or biological mother (egg donor).

Mediation. An informal, voluntary process allowing parties to work with a neutral third party (the 'mediator') to develop a separation agreement. An agreement developed with a mediator is said to be a 'mediated agreement.'

Where appropriate, mediation is an excellent way to develop a separation agreement. Remember, the process is voluntary, so if either party refuses to continue, the mediation is terminated. Mediation requires cooperation and communication between the parties. You must trust each other financially to make full disclosure of each other's financial condition and future earnings opportunities. Each party has his or her attorney review the agreement before it is signed.

Mediators are not marriage counselors, but may help you develop a parenting plan. We advise our clients to go this route where appropriate, but mediation is not suitable for everyone. Interestingly, more men are satisfied with the result than women who tend to believe that they would have done better before a judge.

Memorandum of Law. A legal document filed along with pleadings or other court papers setting forth your lawyer's legal research in support of a request to the court. Modification, Complaint for. The legal, post-divorce procedure to change or modify a separation agreement, or the court's earlier decision and judgment.

Most states allow modification of prior agreements or decisions/judgments based on any unanticipated 'material change of circumstance.' For example, your child requires extraordinary medical expenses or you become permanently disabled, and these events were unanticipated at the time of the original judgment. Certain types of agreements, 'surviving agreements,' are written to bar any future modification. The rules are technical and vary among states. Public policy suggests that all child-related issues should be modifiable. Consult your lawyer.

Motion. A written request asking or 'moving' the court to grant a temporary order, or rule on a legal matter.

Motions are either 'contested' or, if the parties stipulate to the matter, 'uncontested.' Motions are usually heard at a special motion or ex parte 'session' of the court. Legal fees for contested motions are expensive and the outcome is rarely certain. Therefore, when possible, you should enter into a written stipulation to be submitted for the court's approval. The stipulation then becomes part of the court's temporary order.

Frequently, motions request temporary orders relating to support, maintenance of health and life insurance, and temporary custody of minor children. Other requests relate to matters such as motions to allow 'amendment of pleadings,' 'more time to answer a complaint,' and 'continuances.' Requests for restraining orders and requests to vacate the marital home are also made by motion.

Motion for Attachment. See Attachment

Motion for Counsel Fees Pendente Lite. See Counsel Fees Pendente Lite, Motion for

Motion to Vacate the Marital Home. See Vacate the Marital Home, Motion to.


National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws (NCCUSL). Since 1892, seeks uniformity of state laws; comprised of state commissions on uniform laws from each state, the District of Columbia, the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico, and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Each jurisdiction determines the method of appointment and the number of commissioners appointed. Commissioners must be members of the bar. They serve for specific terms, and receive no salaries or fees. No uniform law is effective until adopted by a state legislature. See http://www.nccusl.org

Necessaries. The common law doctrine that if a person who owes another person the duty of support and fails to support such person, he becomes liable to third parties who provide necessaries such as the grocer and utility company to person owed a duty of support..

The dollar amounts are limited and vary from state to state. The better practice is to get a temporary order of support.

Negotiated Settlement; Negotiated Agreement. The parties, usually with counsel, develop a separation agreement. These agreements are not mediated or arbitrated. In other words, the parties, without any neutral third-party, settle their controversy.

No-Fault Divorce. See Fault and No-Fault Divorce

Notice; Legal Notice. The procedure for informing a party that a legal action or motion is pending before a court.

Courts normally refuse to hear complaints or motions unless proper notice is given, but exceptions are often made for ex parte motions which do not require notice to the opposing party. The rules of civil procedure govern both the procedure for serving process and related time requirements. Initial complaints must be served by sheriff or constable (in-hand service), while motions can usually be served either in-hand or via US mail. Parties usually have 20 days to respond to the initial complaint and 10 days to prepare for motions unless a copy of the motion is served in-hand (rather than by US mail), then only 3 to 4 days notice are required. State laws vary, so check with counsel.

Nullity of Marriage. See Annulment

Nuptial. Of, or pertaining to, marriage


Order; Court Order; Order of the Court. A written instruction from the court carrying the weight of law, i.e., the knowing violation of which constitutes contempt of court.

    Orders must be in writing. Many parties quote the courtroom statements of the judge. What the judge says 'orally' may be interesting or even insightful, but it does not carry the force of law unless in writing. Before acting or failing to act in response to the judge's oral comments, you must consult counsel.

Ordinary Expenses. Costs and expenses for necessities such as food, clothing and shelter, but not including luxury items; those expenses that are typical of the family prior to separation and divorce; may include higher priced items for certain families accustomed to spending more on luxury items or purchasing higher priced goods and services.


Palimony. Payments similar to alimony made to a former co-habitator.

Paralegal. A professional in a law office or firm, not an attorney; not permitted to give legal advice, but trained in school or on the job to review and organize material such as financial records to comply with discovery (see Discovery) or draft pleadings (see Pleadings) and documents, but cannot sign pleadings. Only a licensed attorney or a pro se (see Pro Se) party is permitted to sign pleadings such as a complaint for divorce. Paralegal's time is usually billed at a lower hourly rate than the attorney working with the client. Compare Legal Assistant.

Parens patrieae. The right of the state to take charge of the care and custody of minor children or other legal incompetents when their health or safety so requires.

Parent Coordinator. See also Guardian ad Litem. Usually a mental health professional selected by parents or the court to act as an out-of-court decision-maker on child custody and visitation issues. The Parent Coordinator is usually compensated by the parents. Preferably acts under a court order to make decisions that are binding on the parents unless and until a court rules to the contrary.

Parentage. The relationship between parent and child. Sometimes used interchangeably with paternity. See Paternity and Paternity Establishment.

Parental Alienation Syndrome. A controversial theory that states some parents intentionally cause the breakdown of a child's relationship with the other parent, or alienate the child. Proponents of parental alienation often claim that it's a form of emotional child abuse, and that the alienating parent should lose custody. But others argue that it's a cudgel used by parents who've been accused of child abuse.

Parenting Classes. A recent requirement in many states for divorcing parties with minor children. Classes are designed to prevent undue hardship on the children by teaching parents to love their children more than they hate one another.

Parental Kidnapping. The act of one parent illegally taking a child in violation of court order.

The federal Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act requires states to cooperate with each other in returning children kidnapped by a parent. The United States, along with approximately 35 other countries, are signatories to the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. This treaty is similar to the federal law except it is limited to signatory countries.

Parenting Schedule or Parenting Plan. See also Custody and Visitation. Terms used by courts and lawyers since the mid-1990's when referring to parents' time with minor children or sharing of custodial rights and responsibilities. Deemed less emotionally charged than terms "custody" and "visitation."

Paternity. The relationship between a male parent and a child. Usually means the biological ties, but can mean the legal relationship imposed by a court on a man who has no biological ties to a child. See Parentage and Lord Mansfield's Rule. Compare De Facto Parent.

Paternity, Establishment. The determination by a court or voluntary acknowledgment, usually by a signed declaration of paternity, that a man is the father of a child.

Paternity Test. Scientific means by which the identity of a person's (usually a child) father is established. Includes blood grouping and genetic tests. Once paternity is established, the child has a right to receive support and inherit from the father.

Pendente Lite. Latin for 'during the litigation.' See Counsel Fees Pendente Lite, Motion for

Pension Valuation. The determination of the value of a pension by the accrued benefit method or the projected benefit method. The accrued benefit method usually, but not necessarily, produces a lower value than the projected benefit method.

Perjury. Perjury is knowingly lying under oath.

If a person believes he is telling the truth, but is factually incorrect, he's neither a liar nor perjurer. If he knowingly and intentionally makes factually incorrect statements under oath, he is both a liar and perjurer. If the statement is not made under oath, he is merely a liar.

Clients often comment that opposing counsel is a 'liar' or 'perjurer.' If opposing counsel makes a factually incorrect statement, it doesn't necessarily mean he is lying. Who knows what he believes, or what his client told him' Try to stay calm when this happens. See Courtroom Etiquette.

Perjury may run rampant in divorce trials. Criminal prosecution for perjury in a civil cases is virtually non-existent. One Massachusetts Family Court judge sent cases to the district attorney ( who failed to prosecute). No one likes being lied to, especially judges. The 'jerk' factor often decides cases. Which party is the bigger jerk' Judges are human. They often like one side more than the other. Point out your spouse's perjury at trial, and he'll assume 'jerk' status.

Personal Jurisdiction. See Jurisdiction

Personal Liberty. Living and fully enjoying life, free from fear or violence caused unnecessarily and unreasonably; free of unwarranted control by another.

Personal Property. Not real estate, houses, buildings or land. Includes, among other things, cash, savings accounts, checking accounts, stocks, bonds, intellectual property, jewelry, art, antiques, collectibles, and pets.

Personalty. Personal effects such as clothing and furnishings; a subset of personal property. Sometimes described as movable property. Compare Real Property. See Personal Property.

Petition. See Complaint and Joint Petition

Physical Custody. See Custody--Physical

Pleadings. Includes the complaint (or petition), answer, and counterclaim.

Attached to pleadings is a 'certificate of service' or 'proof of service' that certifies how, where, and when such pleading was served on the opposing party and whether the service was by constable, deputy sheriff, by mail, or by 'legal notice' published in a newspaper.

PKPA. Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act of 1980, a federal law addressing child abductions by parents.

Postnuptial Agreement. Same as prenuptial agreement, but entered during the term of the marriage, often revising a prenuptial agreement.

If a divorce is imminent, i.e., the parties enter into a Postnuptial agreement in anticipation of divorce, then the contract is called a Separation Agreement or Settlement Agreement. See Agreement; Separation Agreement; Property Settlement Agreement; Marital Agreement.

Prayer; Prayer for Relief. The request made to the court, usually at the end of a pleading, asking for the relief sought, such as granting a divorce or ordering financial support. For instance, you might say 'the plaintiff respectfully requests this Honorable Court to....'

Preference, Child's. An older child may express a preference to live with or spend more time with a parent. Courts are not bound by the child's preference.

Prejudice; With and Without Prejudice. The concept that what happens in court or by stipulation of the parties will affect future proceedings. Generally, pretrial orders are said to be without prejudice, which means that the parties have a right to a trial on all matters, including those decided by temporary orders. In contrast, with prejudice means that even at trial the earlier order determines the outcome.

Preliminary Hearing. Any court proceeding that occurs prior to trial.

Premarital Assets. Assets acquired before marriage. These assets usually are part of the marital estate in equitable distribution states and are excluded from, and constitute separate property in, community property states.

Prenuptial Agreement. A written, premarital contract dealing with death and divorce which sets forth the rights and responsibilities of the parties upon occurrence of these events.

Such agreements must be 'fair and reasonable' at the time entered, and 'fair and reasonable' at the time of enforcement. The longer a marriage, the less enforceable they become. The parties financial statements should be attached since full disclosure is required.

Preponderance of the Evidence. See Burden of Proof. One standard of proof in a civil case, meaning the degree of difficulty facing a litigant in proving his or her case. Lower standard of proof than clear and convincing evidence, meaning more probable than not that the litigant is right. Compare Clear and Convincing Evidence.

Pretrial Conference. A meeting of all parties and counsel with the trial judge, sometimes held in the judge's chambers.

Most states require these pretrial conferences. Counsel prepare a 'pretrial memoranda' for the court, and the judge asks pointed questions. Most cases settle during this conference since the parties hear, for the first time, how a real-life judge would decide the case. A judge's general impressions and settlement recommendations carry great weight, especially when the pretrial judge will also try the case.

Parties are often surprised by how close they are to settling. Often the only thing keeping them apart is their attorneys' failure to communicate with their clients and with each other. Some lawyers never really understand their own cases until a judge, with 5-10 minutes of preparation, explains it to them. They are highly focused on a few trees when the forest is on fire.

Lawyers' lack of communication and their zealous but unrealistic advocacy waste tens of millions of dollars annually.

Pretrial Discovery. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Pretrial Memorandum. See Trial, Pretrial Memorandum

Pretrial Motion. See Motion

Pretrial Order. See Temporary Order; Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)

Primary Physical Custody. See Custody--Physical

Privilege. Refers to evidence based on private communications made within legally recognized 'confidential relationships,' such as marriage, attorney-client, patient-psychiatrist, and priest-penitent. It also includes the privilege against 'self incrimination' which can be asserted by a party accused of adultery where adultery is considered a crime.

Under the rules of evidence, matters are excluded, no matter how relevant to the case, if obtained through these confidential relationships. The rules are technical and vary state to state. Consult your lawyer.

Probate; Probate Court. Probate is the legal process of administering decedents' estates.

In many states, family court is part of, or under the jurisdiction of, the probate court.

Probation Officer. See Family Service Officer

Production of Documents. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Professional Responsibility (Code of). See Ethics, Legal Ethics and Cannons of (Legal) Ethics

Pro Se; Pro Se Appearance. When a party handles her own case, i.e., represents herself, she is said to appear 'pro se.'

Parties are entitled to appear pro se, but counsel is recommended, especially if you have significant assets or serious child-related issues. Remember, even a lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client.

Process. (noun). See Service; Service of Process

Procedure. See Rules of Procedure; Rules of Civil Procedure; Rules of Domestic Relations Procedure

Property -- Learn more Property and Divorce.

Property Agreement. See Agreement

Proposed Findings; Proposed Orders. A document prepared by you or your lawyer and submitted to the court setting forth your best case scenario, i.e., how you want the judge to find the facts and make 'conclusions of law' to decide the case.

Protection, Order of. See Protective Order.

Protective Order. See Restraining Order and Discovery Problems.

Psychological Evaluation. Includes interviews of person(s), usually parents and minor children involved in custody disputes, by mental health professionals. May also include psychological testing. See Psychological Testing. Results are usually reported in written report to the court and attorneys for the parties.

Psychological Parent. Term coined by Goldstein, Freud and Solnit, authors of "Beyond the Best Interests of the Child" in 1973 to mean a child had only one psychological parent, and thus, should be in the custody of that parent or was at risk for developing an attachment disorder. Often used in latter twentieth century custody cases as a rationale for awarding sole custody to mothers. See Attachment Disorder and Attachment Theory.

Psychological Testing. Includes tests like the Rorschach Ink Blot Test and Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory – 2. Conducted by psychologists, usually in family law cases to help determine child custody.

Public Records. any books, papers, maps, photographs, electronic storage media, computer files, digitally stored material or any other information regardless of form, which is made or received by employees of public agencies.


Quash. See Discovery Problems

QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order; pronounced `kwad-row). A court order directed to a plan administrator to allocate retirement benefits between spouses. QDROs are typically required when one party has a large pension or 401k, and the couple's other assets are insufficient to "even up" the property division—that is, award the other spouse cash or property equivalent to their fair share of the retirement assets.


Real Property. Land, buildings. Immovable property. Compare Personalty and Personal Property.

Recapture, Alimony. A federal tax rule that penalizes the party who pays alimony, if payments are "front loaded", meaning excess amount is paid during the first three years. If the alimony paid in the third year decreases by more than $15,000 from the second year or the alimony paid in the second and third years decreases significantly from the alimony paid in the first year, the paying spouse must include in income in the third year part of the alimony payments previously deducted. In other words, the paying spouse's tax bill increases and the recipient's decreases because he or she can deduct in the third year part of the alimony payments he or she previously included in income.

Recrimination. If the defendant is accused of adultery, 'recrimination' is the counterclaim when the plaintiff is accused of adultery, too.

Recusal. The disqualification of a judge because of judicial prejudice or bias.

If you believe that a judge cannot give your case a fair hearing, counsel can file a motion asking the judge to 'recuse' himself. Unless the judge has a personal or business relationship with your spouse, this motion will probably fail, and can even backfire. Judges do not want to be told that they cannot act fairly.

Rehabilitative Alimony. Short-term spousal support designed to help the recipient 'get started' with her new life. See Alimony.

Relocation of Minor Child. See Removal.

Removal (of a minor child). The legal proceeding, usually brought by complaint or petition, by the custodial parent to remove (move) the minor child(ren) from the state.

The recent trend is to allow the custodial parent more flexibility in moving out of state when there are 'real advantages' (known as the 'real advantage' test) to the custodial parent. The theory is what's good for the parent (usually the mother) is good for the child, i.e., in the child's best interest. Fathers' rights groups have lobbied against this trend. Not all states use the 'real advantage' test. We have come full circle from Victorian times when children were the personal property of their fathers. Now children are the personal property of their mothers. Many courts are unlikely to allow removal if the child has a close relationship with the non-custodial parent. Consult your attorney.

Replacement Value. Estimated price or cost of replacing an asset. Example, the estimated cost of rebuilding a house, not necessarily the same as the cost of acquiring or buying the house. Compare Fair Market Value.

Request for Admissions. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Request for Production of Documents. See Discovery; Pretrial Discovery

Residency Requirement. Amount of time a person must reside or live in a state before becoming eligible to file for divorce in that state. Each state has different waiting periods; most require a minimum of 6 to 12 months.

Restraining Order. A temporary court order prohibiting a party from certain activities. Issued in response to a motion, restraining orders often are issued to protect marital assets and to protect against domestic violence. In many states, violating a 'domestic restraining order' is a criminal offense.

Retainer Agreement. See Fee Agreement

Rules; Rules of Civil Procedure; Rule of Domestic Relations Procedure. The statutory rules that govern court procedure. Courts must obey these rules.

In contrast to substantive matters covered by divorce statutes, court rules are limited to procedure. Such matters as 'notice' requirements, service of process, time requirements for answers and counterclaims, and discovery are established by rules. Courts have some discretion to ignore some rules if their enforcement would cause injustice. See Equity; Court's of Equity.

Rules of Evidence. The statutory rules governing testimony, documents, and demonstrative materials.

In divorce, the two most encountered rules relate to hearsay ('he said, she said),' and the marital privilege ('my husband told me...'). Clients are often frustrated when important evidence is barred from trial. Lawyers spend considerable time figuring out 'how to get it in.' Try not to get too angry at the system, there is a valid reason for each rule.


Safe Havens for Children. a federal program to make grants to states, units of local government, and Indian tribal governments to work with nonprofit entities to provide supervised visitation and safe visitation exchange of children in domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, or stalking cases.

Safe House. A residence in an undisclosed location where victims of abuse and their minor children may reside to be safe from the abuser. Usually refers to residences operated by not-for-profit organizations offering services and shelter to victims and their minor children.

Same Sex Marriage. Marriage of two women or two men. Legal throughout the United States since June 26, 2015, when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry under the 14th Amendment of the U.S. Constitution.

Sanctions. Under the Rules of Procedure, courts may penalize or sanction a party or counsel for improper behavior, such as making frivolous claims.

Usually such awards are paid to the opposing party, but don't hold your breath. Courts are reluctant to punish obstructionist lawyering or uncooperative parties. The divorce bar has created a lucrative cottage industry out of obstructing justice.

Secretion of Assets. The hiding of assets

Self Incrimination; the right against. The right of the accused not to admit criminal wrongdoing.

Most wrongful behavior is not criminal in divorce, so the right against self incrimination cannot be asserted. Certain acts, however, such as adultery, are still considered crimes in most states. Domestic violence and tax cheating are also crimes. The right may be asserted in these limited instances, but unlike criminal proceedings, the judge may draw a negative inference from a party asserting the right against self incrimination. In other words, the judge can assume your guilt from your assertion of the right. In criminal cases, drawing such inferences is strictly forbidden.

Separate Maintenance. See Legal Separation

Separate Property. Property is not considered part of the marital estate. Usually occurring in community property states, it includes property brought into the marriage and also may include inheritance or gifts received during the marriage.

Separate Support. See Legal Separation

Separation. See Legal Separation

Separation Agreement. See Agreement

Service; Service of Process. The legal process of informing, i.e., 'giving notice,' that a complaint or motion is pending.

The process described is a noun meaning certain pleadings served or to be served. Process is served personally ('personal service') either in-hand or accepted by an adult at the recipient's residence or place of business. If the defendant cannot be located, service is by 'publication' in the local newspaper where he last lived. Check with your attorney as rules vary from state to state.

Settlement; Settlement Agreement. See Agreement; Separation Agreement; Property Settlement Agreement; Marital Agreement

Shared Custody. See Custody

Shelter. See Safe House.

Single Parent Families. Usually refers to female head of household families because most minor children continue living with mothers after the break-up of the family.

Sole Custody. See Custody.

Special Advocate. A volunteer appointed by a court to handle matters pertaining to children in abuse and neglect cases. May also be involved in child custody cases between parents where abuse and neglect are evident.

Special Master. A court-appointed individual, usually an attorney, who assists the court in moving a case forward.

Problems relating to pretrial discovery often are handled by a special master who schedules and coordinates discovery. Such procedure is necessary where one or both parties fail to comply with discovery requests, or when the parties can't agree on appraisers a special master can make the selection. Note that the special master is not a judge -- his opinions carry weight, but not the final word.

Spousal Lien on Marital Property. See Attachment

Spousal Support. See Alimony

Stalking. Behavior of a rejected partner after a break-up who cannot accept the end of the relationship. May include incessant calls through the day and night, unwanted letters and email and other conduct aimed at maintaining contact the stalker hopes will effectuate a reconciliation. The stalker's behavior may be annoying and intrusive, and can cause fear and lead to harm to the departing partner. Many states have anti-stalking statutes.

State. As used in PKPA, meaning the 50 states, District of Columbia, Puerto Rico and the Territories of the United States.

State Court. In the United States, courts established and governed by States and operating under state law. Not established by Congress. Family law cases are usually reserved for state court, but increasingly, the federal courts have been used to decide child abduction cases, that is, whether the child should be returned to the country of habitual residence (see Habitual Residence), but not to decide which party wins custody. See Hague Convention.

Status Conference. A meeting before trial with the judge assigned to a case for the purpose of updating the court on any progress the parties may have made in resolving any issues. Often used as an opportunity for the judge to comment informally on the parties' positions. Judicial feedback at the status conference can lead to partial or complete settlement.

Stay; Stay of Proceedings. The stopping of a judicial proceeding. A 'stay of execution' stops the enforcement of a court order.

Generally, stays are granted by appeals courts, but appeals are rare in divorce cases.

Stay-Away Order. Meaning an order issued by a court requiring a party to stay away from another person, possibly including terms to stay away from that person's home or work and to maintain a minimum distance from the person if seen in public.

Stipulation; Stipulated Agreement. A written agreement intended to be entered as a court order upon motion of the parties.

Courts like and usually approve reasonable stipulations. They save judicial time. Parties can stipulate to almost anything related to the case. In fact, a separation agreement is nothing more than a comprehensive stipulation. If the parties agree on some matters, but disagree on others, they can stipulate to those issues and have the court decide outstanding issues.

Strike; Motion to Strike. Upon motion of a party, a court may remove certain pleadings and evidence from the docket upon finding such material totally irrelevant, scandalous, or without proper notice.

Stock Options. An asset or property interest that is divisible between divorcing spouses. A widely popular form of deferred compensation in the late 1990's, but loosing popularity as laws (2005) make stock options more expensive for employers. An option gives the employee the right to purchase company stock at a certain price (strike price). The employee hopes the company does well, raising the market price of its stock above the strike price. Once the employee exercises the option, that is, purchases the stock at a bargain price, the employee sells the stock and realizes a profit. If the strike price is above the then current market price, the options are described as being "under water" or worthless.

Structured Settlement. Instead of one large payment, a series of smaller payments paid over time, including interest. Total series of payments add up to more than the agreed upon settlement or lump sum because interest has been added to compensate the recipient for the delayed payment.

Subpoena; Subpoena Duces Tecum. A court order (or order of a notary public in some states) to attend a legal proceeding such as a trial or deposition. If documents also are requested, the subpoena is called a subpoena duces tecum, Latin for 'bring with you.' See also Discovery; Pretrial Discovery.

Success Fee. Legal fees added to hourly billings if, in the lawyer's opinion, he deserves a bonus based on his performance.

Obviously, outside the practice of law, you are unlikely to find an employee or consultant unilaterally deciding his own compensation. Even chairmen of large corporations don't set their own compensation levels. Think of your local supermarket cashier: 'Well, today the produce is exceptionally fresh and you didn't have to wait, so that's an extra $10.00.' If your lawyer wants a success fee, see if he'll give you a 'failure discount.' Ask whether he'll agree to reduce his fee if in your sole opinion his performance was unsatisfactory.

While some highly-regarded lawyers charge success fees, we believe it raises ethical questions, especially since counsel knows you, your psyche, and your finances intimately! Your state's Cannons of Ethics may address this issue.

Summary Judgment. A procedural rule that allows judges to enter judgments without trial, generally used when only questions of law, and not fact, are at issue.

Summons. The court's official notice to the defendant that he must respond to the attached complaint or petition.

The complaint must be served with the summons for the defendant to know the particulars of the claim against him. A sheriff or other party authorized to serve process completes a 'proof of service' or 'return of service' that is filed with the court.

Supervision; Supervised Visitation. See Visitation

Surviving Agreement. See Agreement and Modification; Complaint for


Taxes -- Learn more about Divorce and Filing Taxes.

Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF). Successor aid program established by the federal government in 1996 to replace Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC), also known as Welfare.

Temporary Order, Temporary Restraining Order (TRO). A pretrial order, i.e., interlocutory order, compelling a party to do something, or prohibiting him from certain activities.

Upon motion, courts may issue temporary orders at any time from the initial filing of a case to time of trial. Temporary restraining orders (TROs) are issued to preserve marital assets, such as restricting borrowing and spending. They also are used to restrain one spouse from returning to the marital home (see Vacate; Motion to Vacate the Marital Home) or harassing the other spouse.

Temporary Support. An interlocutory order of support entered before trial, i.e., an order issued while a case is pending. See Temporary Order.

Tenancy by the Entirety. The manner in which jointly owned real estate is usually held by married couples. The surviving spouse, if the parties were married at time of death, becomes the sole owner automatically.

Tender Years Presumption. Concept used by courts from early 20th century until 1970's when deciding child custody cases. Presumption favored mothers as custodial parents of young children or children of tender years, not adolescents. Compare Best Interests of the Child.

Testimony. Any statement made under oath.

Time Standards. Court rules establishing deadlines after suit is filed for the completion or occurrence of certain phases of litigation such as discovery (see Discovery), pretrial conferences (see Pretrial Conferences), and trials.

Tort; Marital Tort; Domestic Tort. A tort is any wrongful act which creates legal liability against the defendant or 'tortfeaser.'

Some states allow spouses to bring 'tort' actions in addition to divorce actions. Tort claims include assault and battery, fraud, and intentional interference with a person's job or business. Domestic tort claims are rare, as most divorce cases cover all matters related to the marriage.

Trafficking. Trafficking of persons, especially into the sex trade, slavery, and slavery-like conditions.

Transitional Housing Assistance for Victims of Domestic Violence. Federal grant money available under the Violence against Women Act of 2000 administered through the Department of Health and Human Services. See also Safe House and Shelter.

Trial; Hearing on the Merits; Evidentiary Hearing. A formal proceeding before a judge who hears testimony under the rules of evidence and makes a final decision relating to the matters presented. All such decisions are with prejudice, since they are final adjudications of the matters presented.

In contrast, motions are less formal without adherence to the rules of evidence. They do not result in final adjudication, but only temporary orders. Therefore, they are often without prejudice.

Trial Memoranda; Pretrial Memoranda. A 'sales' document filed with the court, setting forth each party's theory of the case, what they want, and why they should get it.

Trustee Process. A court order to a third party, such as a banker, freezing an account or property.

In effect, the third party becomes your trustee. He is responsible to you and the court for the safekeeping of certain property, such as money or the contents of a safe deposit box. A 'writ of trustee process' is issued by the court in response to a motion and an affidavit of 'irreparable harm' filed in support of the motion.


UCCJEA. Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act. A so-called uniform law regarding custody and visitation issues when dealing with parties and children from different states. If using UCCJEA, refer to the version enacted in your state.

UIFSA. Uniform Interstate Family Support Act. A so-called uniform law regarding child support and alimony when dealing with parties from different states. Each States is free to enact its own laws and even its own version of UIFSA. If using UIFSA, refer to the version enacted in your state.

Unexercised Interest. Relative to stock options, for example, meaning the employee has the right, but has not yet purchased or exercised the options.

Uniform Parentage Act of 2000. Integrates the Uniform Parentage Act (1973), as revised by this version, along with provisions covered by the Uniform Putative and Unknown Fathers Act (1988), and the Uniform Status of Children of Assisted Conception Act (1988), into a single Act of the National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws. See National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws (NCCUSL).

Unvested Interest. Relative to stock options, for example, meaning the employee spouse does not yet own, but has the right to "earn" the options, usually by remaining with the company for a certain period of time. Relative to a trust, meaning there is no present or future interest guaranteed. Compare Vested Interest.


VAWA. See Violence against Women Act of 1994 and Violence against Women Act of 2000.

Vacate the Marital Home, Motion to. A request to the court asking that one spouse be forced to vacate the marital home.

Unless you are under the threat of violence, this is a radical request that sets the stage for a contentious divorce. While your spouse may well deserve shabby treatment, you deserve to get what's yours with the least effort. Don't complicate things unnecessarily.

Vacating Order. Act or order of a court terminating or rescinding a prior order, such as the case of a party who seeks and obtains a stay-away order (see Stay-Away Order) that is later terminated after the court hears testimony from the person ordered to stay away and from the alleged victim who requested the stay-away order in the first instance.

Valuation. Process in divorce cases of assigning a value or worth. Value assigned by agreement of the parties who may rely on appraisers or a judge if the parties fail to agree. Judges rely on evidence offered by experts, and possibly the owner-spouse, by oral testimony, usually supported by written appraisals. See also Daubert Rule.

Venue; Change of Venue. The location of the court, in contrast to jurisdiction, which determines whether a court has legal authority to hear a case. Venue is where a court, with proper jurisdiction, will hear the case. When a case is transferred to a new location within the same jurisdiction (county or state), the transfer is called a change of venue.

Usually, the county court in the county where the parties last lived together is the proper venue.

Vested Interest. Relative to stock options, for example, meaning the employee spouse now owns and is entitled to exercise or purchase. Relative to a trust, meaning the beneficiary has a guaranteed present or future interest. A vested interest, even if a future interest, not presently owned, may affect the court's decision on alimony and a division of assets in some states. Compare Unexercised Interest.

Viatical Value. As applied to term life insurance, the value or sale price of term life insurance to a third party. What the owner of term life insurance policy receives as a percentage of the death benefit upon sale to a third party. In general, the younger the insured, the lower the value.

Violence against Women Act of 1994 and Violence against Women Act of 2000. Federal legislation and funding of programs to prevent violence against women and to prosecute abusers. See https://www.justice.gov/ovw.

Visitation, Grandparents. In the 1970's the concept of grandparent visitation rights swept the country, only to be eroded at the turn of the century by the Troxel v. Granville case (2000) in the U.S. Supreme Court, and later cases decided in state courts around the United States. The courts are severely restricting or eliminating grandparent visitation in favor of the parents' right to limit or prevent access to their children.

Visitation; Supervised Visitation. Pursuant to stipulation, agreement, or court order, visits of unemancipated children with their non-custodial parent. Visits are supervised by a responsible adult when the non-custodial parent is accused of child abuse or neglect.

    Take out your calendar and think it through. The schedule should be flexible, but consistent enough so you can make plans.

Visitation Center. A location where parent and child visit under supervised conditions, sometimes for a fee paid by the visiting parent who may be accused of sexual or other abusive behavior toward the child.

Voluntary Acknowledgment. The act of a man who signs a written declaration that he is the father of the child in question. A voluntary act, not ordered by a court. The declaration usually follows certain formal requirements established by state law.


Wage Assignment; Wage Attachment. See Garnishment

Welfare. See Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) and Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF).

With and Without Prejudice. See Prejudice; With and Without Prejudice

White Marriage. A marriage without sex

Writ of Attachment. See Attachment; Motion for Attachment

Writ Ne Exeat (Arrest). An arrest warrant granted in emergencies

    This is an extraordinary remedy used in extraordinary circumstances. For example, it is used to prevent the removal of assets or minor child. When such removal is imminent, the court orders the sheriff to arrest and bring the defendant to court.

Wrongful Removal or Retention (of a minor child). See Hague Convention. The breach or violation of another person's custody rights under the laws of the state where the child was habitually resident immediately before the removal or retention and where custody rights were being exercised or would have been if the removal or retention had not occurred.

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